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Asian dating Q and A for @ Match.com

3rd Nov 2014

I got my cupid on for my latest guest blog post for Match.Com. Am I am dating guru/know it all??! Hell no! but I def enjoyed answering the dating questions below. Let me know what you think. And if you didn’t read my first post for Match.com read it here…

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Question 1 – cultural differences

Hi Nina,

I’m Scottish and have recently started dating an Indian guy. He’s very kind and I enjoy his company but I’m a little worried about the differences in cultures and wondered if you had any advice on dating an Asian guy?

Anna

Hey Anna,

Thanks for your email. I could give you a really unhelpful list of stereotyped tips like….

1) Enjoy curry, the hotter the better (a bottle of Tabasco should become a handbag staple)
2) Learn how to wrap yourself in a 7 yard piece of fabric (aka The Sari)
3) Learn how to walk in the above without looking like a penguin
4) Work on your Bollywood moves (screwing a light bulb is a classic)
5) Watch Bend it Like Beckham and East is East on repeat

But the best advice I can give you is to try not to stereotype because every single guy out there is different. It’s understandable to be slightly nervous of the unknown and the best way of overcoming this feeling is to get to know each other more- ask questions/learn about his culture and likewise talk about your background. From what you’ve said in your email – you’ve met a great guy- have fun!

Question 2 – how to find the right girl?

Hi Nina,

I’m a 30 year old Muslim guy. For the last three years I’ve been looking for a long term partner and I’m just fed up. I go on two or three dates a week whether it’s through internet dates or family set ups but nothing seems to happen. I met a couple of girls that I liked but after a few dates things just fizzled. My friends say I’m a catch- alright looking, good job, down to earth etc…so I just don’t know why I’m struggling to meet the right girl.

Asif

Hi Asif,

Thanks for getting in touch. It’s great to hear from a male dating perspective. It sounds like you have a major case of ‘dating fatigue’. I’ll give you a pat on the back for being pro-active but think you may have taken it too far the other way. You might be going on too many dates, so take your time, and think about what you’re really looking for in a date. You’ve said that you’re fed up and that jaded outlook is probably coming across on your dates. Also going into a date with the mind set that you are looking for a serious relationship can put pressure on the date and you may find yourself making snap decisions about people. Dating should be fun and you’re definitely not having any fun at the moment.

Take up a new hobby, spend time with your friends & family or join a sports team! Basically, use some of the time you were previously using to date on just you. And when you do feel like starting to date again- slow it down a little and go into the date with the mind set that you’re meeting a new friend- take the pressure off and in the words of John Legend- Take it Slowwwww!

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Guest Blog Post @ Match.com

30th July 2014

I was approached a couple of weeks ago by the Match.Com blog team to write two guest blog posts to go into their Asian Dating section. Well the first is now live… they asked for an Indian Dating perspective but I think the post is pretty general-here’s the repost let me know what you think!!!

Nina Asian Blogger ( I sent a few pics over surprised they choose this black and white one?!)

My name is Nina. I’ve been contacted by the lovely people at match.com to share an Indian dating perspective on this blog. Am I some sort of dating guru?.. ummm NO! But I’ve def had my fair share of the good, the bad and the down right ugly when it comes to dating. Here’s my top five dating tips…

1) If you don’t buy the ticket you won’t win the lottery

At Uni I would bump into this one guy pretty much every week. We’d chat a bit and he’d ask me out. He wasn’t really my type (I remember a big monobrow situation; in fact there was just a general teen-wolf thing going on). Anyway, after a few months of some cheeky banter and that line when I’d decline a date, I eventually thought why not? We only went on a few dates but they were far more enjoyable then I expected. So next time you’re umming and ahhing about someone, say yes and see what happens…

2) Tear up your check list (or at least re-evaluate)

Hey, we all have a check list whether we’re vocal about it or whether it’s subconscious. I was guilty of this one – my original checklist read like this: needs to be tall (I’m 5ft 9 so over was a must), dark, and handsome, have a good sense of humour, and be kind and caring with a good job. So half my list was pretty superficial hey? And guess what my husband is shorter than me…he was unemployed when we met. If I’d have stuck to my checklist I wouldn’t have even have gone on one date with him…

3) Be proactive

So this pearl of wisdom came from my Mum. I was having a moan about the dating drought I was experiencing a few years ago, and instead of the sympathy that I was after (thanks, Mum!) she said “well who are you going to meet sitting at home? Make an effort and go out.” Got to love Mums and their brutal honesty. And she was right. So all you guys are signed up to match.com (good start!) Try talking to a few people and don’t just wait for people to say hello to you. Perhaps you could also sign up for one of the Match.com nights out?

4) Are you great boyfriend/girlfriend material?

We’ve been so accustomed to talking about what we want from a partner that it’s easy to forget that we have to be a good catch too! Ask your friends what your best and worst qualities are, as having self-awareness is such a plus point. Be someone that you’d want to date.

5) Dating should be fun

The last tip, and I think the most important, is such a simple one – forget games, forget the rules, forget your checklist – just be in the moment and have fun.

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